Find yourself and define yourself on your terms. Oscar Wilde once said with his usual wit: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. You are being yourself when you know, understand, and accept yourself.
- What do you value? Contemplate your life and choices. What kinds of things would you or wouldn’t you like to do, and act accordingly. You cannot be shoved into any box or pegged.
- Resolve what values feel most true to yourself.
Keep noticing your own strengths. They more than adequately balance out any flaws and are the principal reason for not comparing yourself to others.
Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Or accidentally head butt your date when leaning in for a kiss? Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets others know that you’re not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It’s also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
Stop caring about how people perceive you. Some of them will like you and some of them won’t. Either attitude is as likely to be right or wrong.
Stop being a people-pleaser. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent and what matters most is that you listen to your own inner confidence and if it’s missing, start developing it!
Build up a circle of trusted friends and people who share your views and beliefs in life. These people care about you and are interested in how you grow as a person, and are respectful.
Treat yourself as you’d treat your own best friend. You value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you care about. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of you? Now go be that and do that.
- Be responsible — Tell yourself you’re special, wonderful, and worthwhile.
- Develop and express your individuality. Whether it’s your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream and produces positive outcomes, be proud of it.
Follow your own style. Whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.
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- Be yourself be different, be a real friend to yourself.
- If you need to be yourself, do what your heart tells you to do, say what you feel deep inside.
- Keep unique by keeping your perspective focused on building your strengths.
1. Express your uniqueness daily.
Create a daily practice of doing or saying something that expresses you without regard to what’s popular or common
2. Re-connect to a childhood passion.
Think about what you loved to do as a kid as it can be a clue to your truest expressions. Anything you want to try today?
4. Write down three things that you truly value.
Take one small action every day to express your values.
5. Create relationships based on being you.
6. Express Yourself in everything you do.
7. Remind yourself how important this is.
“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~E.E Cummings
I DARE YOU: to find a new way to accept and respect your true self today. Express yourself out in the world and be your own best friend. Isn’t it amazing that you were created exactly as you are? Celebrate that today. I dare you!